Sexting : n. inv. Sending sexually explicit or explicit messages, images, or videos via portable or fixed computer devices. (Treccani Vocabulary)
The definition is clear, and there's no doubt about the erotic nature of the term . Sexting is now a trend, and everyone, at least once, has felt the urge to send that hot message, piquing the curiosity of the person on the other side of the screen. Sexting is sex in every sense, but from a distance. Through sexting, we learn to tell each other what's on our minds and to do so explicitly, without shame or fear. At least, that's what it should be and what we hope for, right? 🌶️
Connectivity is overwhelming us; the internet is now a part of our lives and it's hard to escape. Sex is rampant online: just think of the countless pornography sites, the dedicated social networks, the vast world of sex shops, and the retail sale of Bluetooth-enabled products. In short, eroticism is experienced in person, but it's also intensely felt online.
Sexting is part of online sex, but be careful how you do it 🕵️
Practiced especially by younger generations, sexting is actually a very common phenomenon even in adulthood. The idea of teasing, provoking, and creating images and fantasies is one of the factors sexting is based on and is what makes it work.
Although the term refers exclusively to a "text form," sexting actually also involves sending sexually explicit photos and/or videos. One caveat , however, is that there is no obligation and the consent of the parties involved is always required .
The purpose of sexting is pleasure in all its forms; sexting ignites fantasies, creates scenarios in the mind, imagines new contexts, new sensations, new scents, and thrills to be experienced. Desire takes center stage, words become caresses, the body a sensual canvas on which to draw pleasure.
A Guide to Healthy and Mindful Sexting: Not Everyone Experiences It the Same Way
When talking with friends, we often discuss sexting and how satisfying it can be even when we're not actually in the same room. Sexting , when done with awareness and knowledge, can be truly fun . Friends have spoken openly about it, admitting they do it often and find considerable satisfaction; others, however, have never taken it too far and have remained, so to speak, on the surface of the phenomenon. Some like to tease with a few words, some prefer to ask for photos, some like to send them spontaneously, some focus entirely on videos: the forms of sexting are endless, a bit like those of love. Everyone is free to experience sexting (and therefore sex) as they see fit: igniting desires, even those that have always been hidden, can be a way to let oneself be discovered and, above all, to discover oneself. It takes courage, but above all, it requires a highly developed self-awareness. Nothing should ever be a requirement: everything should flow naturally, without pressure, without discomfort, without any kind of judgment. What's the point in doing something you don't want to do?
How to : Prohibitions and tips for safe sexting. Because respect is the foundation.
If you're one of those people who haven't yet experienced the thrill of sexting and want to learn all about the hottest online erotic phenomenon, well, you're in the right place. If you're one of those who regularly sexts, you're also in the right place: a refresher course never hurts .
So, given that sexting about sex requires conversation (no matter how, where, or why), there are a few simple steps each of us should follow to make it work perfectly. First of all: who is the person you're flirting with online? Do you know them, or are these the first few messages? Have you met before, or did it all just happen spontaneously? Answer these simple questions and move forward without fear.
Okay, now that we've established the nature of the relationship, it's time to move on to the "juicy" phases of sexting. Play on fantasies, be creative, give free rein to your erotic dreams, the urges that live within you, and never feel like you're wrong: sex is magic, it's a game, and yes, love can be all of these things too. Choose how to provoke the person on the other end, "hit" them where you know they'll give in to their instincts, tickle their body as if they were right in front of you.
Stop : aren't we forgetting something? Regardless of your level of acquaintance, trust, or affinity, always avoid sending unsolicited explicit content . So, no to photos of genitals (the famous and much-cited dickpick , for example) unless requested by the person involved. We often don't think about it, but unpleasant situations like this happen very often: "I was chatting with 'x' and at a certain point I saw he had sent me a photo. I opened it, one of those 'bomb' ones on Instagram, and it was a photo of his penis. I hadn't asked for it: I was really disappointed." This is just one of many experiences, and we're sure it's happened to many of you reading this.
Always ask permission, which is also more exciting, and proceed only when you have the OK. Always familiarize yourself with the situation, don't feel stressed by what's happening, and avoid doing things you might regret unless you're sure.
Can I send photos where my face is visible?
We hear every day about photos being stolen and shared without consent, like in the recent case of a young woman employed by a major soccer team who was fired for it! The photo/video issue is one of the hottest topics when it comes to sexting. Here too, freedom reigns supreme, but it would be best to try to protect yourself , especially if you're doing it with people you don't know. To do this, then, how about taking photos that avoid showing your face and/or body details? Camouflage your pose , try to hide any recognizable tattoos and/or piercings, and always opt for a neutral background . This way, it will be very difficult to trace the subject: have fun, but always do it with your safety in mind. It's neither obvious nor trivial.
Now all you have to do is give in to your desires, all you have to do is hang on to pleasure, let yourself be swept away in a mix of dreams and fantasies, feel your body vibrate... with or without sex toys: the choice is yours, free, as always!
See you soon ❤️
