Are you part of the team that talks openly about masturbation, or are you part of the team that, on the contrary, feels embarrassed at the mere thought? Let's start with an important premise: whoever your team is, you're not doing anything wrong. The topic of masturbation (or autoeroticism, whatever you call it) is quite sensitive, even though it's actually completely natural. Not everyone is willing to open up about the topic, and not everyone, for various reasons, will admit to practicing it in their private lives.
What's wrong with masturbating? None, but we grew up wearing taboos.
What's behind masturbation? Why is it often hard to admit that we carve out a few minutes of our lives to experience a bit of self-induced pleasure? The answer is actually very simple: because the society we live in, at least the one most people grew up in, has always tried to relegate the sexual sphere to the absolute shadows, treating it as "something absolutely not to be spoken about." As if it were something to be ashamed of , a scarlet letter to be cleansed of, especially for women. Spoiler : women masturbate too, not just men, but fortunately today everyone knows this.
Masturbation has a lot of benefits, let go of those insecurities!
You know that incredible feeling of well-being and relaxation you feel after an orgasm? They're called endorphins , and yes, they're also released with (and thanks to) masturbation. This alone should be enough to understand how much self-eroticism is a true panacea for both mind and body! Besides sex itself, which is always good and welcoming it is always a pleasure, masturbation is also part of the "sexual wellness package," so don't leave it out.
Discovering the main benefits of masturbation
Practicing self-eroticism means taking care of yourself. Masturbation can involve both direct stimulation of the genitals and stimulation of all other areas considered sensitive. The range of pleasures is vast, so exploration is free, open, and surprising. What if we told you that masturbating is truly good for your body and mind? The benefits are countless, and reading a few of them will surely convince you.
- Masturbation reduces stress and significantly improves mood. Among the primary benefits of masturbation is undoubtedly its stress-reduction effect. The release of endorphins (also known as "happy hormones," especially oxytocin and dopamine) improves mood, combats depression, and relieves stress.
- Masturbation positively impacts cardiovascular health. Have you ever noticed how your heart rate increases during masturbation and when you reach the peak of pleasure? This is a sign of great well-being, especially when it comes to cardiovascular health. The benefits are therefore excellent, a bit like exercising!
- Masturbation = increased sexual pleasure. It may seem obvious, but this is a huge benefit. Masturbating means exploring yourself, and exploring yourself means becoming increasingly aware. Self-eroticism can make sex better, increase desire, and even boost self-confidence: how wonderful can self-discovery be?
- Masturbation improves the quality of your sleep. The release of endorphins is a real boon to your health. Besides improving your mood and reducing stress, masturbation also improves the quality of your sleep. Thanks to the pleasure of self-eroticism, your night's rest will be easier and you'll immediately feel sleepier. Sleeping will be much easier!
- Masturbation trains the pelvic floor. During orgasm, the perineal muscles contract, making the moment even more intense. Masturbation keeps this erogenous zone active and trained: a real panacea!
- Masturbation relieves pain. Did you know that the release of endorphins triggered by masturbation can alleviate many types of pain? Menstrual cramps, for example, will reduce and become more tolerable. The magic of post-orgasm endorphins is sensational.
- Self-eroticism improves cognitive function. What's the connection between masturbation and memory? Apparently, self-eroticism, along with orgasm, increases blood flow to the brain. This also leads to increased oxygenation, resulting in significant stimulation and ultimately, fertile ground for memory. Masturbation increases dopamine, which in turn improves concentration and increases learning ability.
- Learning to masturbate also improves a couple's bond. Many people take it for granted, but masturbation is also important from a relationship perspective. Sharing your sexual experiences, fantasies, and preferences is essential within a couple. Talking freely about self-eroticism and sharing your sensations means communicating, and communication, as we now know, is essential in a couple.
But how do you masturbate? Little tips for great pleasures.
What a rhetorical question, you might say, but when we talk about masturbation there is never anything rhetorical or obvious.
Nothing. The solutions for perfect autoeroticism can be (and are) numerous. Let's see together.
a few tips, just to refresh your memory and offer some spicy ideas.
Direct stimulation of the genitals with hands/fingers;
Direct stimulation of the genitals with sex toys (but hands can always be added!);
Stimulation of other erogenous zones: experimenting with one's own body is already pleasure;
Read erotic stories to spark your imagination;
Watch some hardcore videos to get some inspiration;
Look in the mirror and give yourself some good, healthy love;
Simply relax and let go: with the help of a good lubricant everything will be easier.
simple.
There are those who practice it and those who don't do it for fear of "not knowing how to do it", or simply for fear.
Let's say it once and for all: "I don't know how to" doesn't exist. It doesn't exist in life in general, and it obviously doesn't exist in sex. Behind every "I don't know how to" lie the words "fear," "shame," "embarrassment," "judgment." All of these things, taken together, trigger a significant self-sabotage mechanism, especially when we're talking about such intimate topics that are still (albeit years ago) not fully exposed to the light of day. Everyone is capable; everyone simply needs their own pace, their own ways, their own awareness, which doesn't always arrive quickly or when society "demands" it. It's also true that some people aren't used to this type of practice and prefer to let themselves go directly with their partner: there's nothing wrong with that; the important thing is to always do what you want, without pressure or obligation.
Whether you practice it or not, never feel wrong.
Who said masturbation is mandatory, and who said it has to be talked about with other people? Some people prefer privacy, keeping their "erotic sessions" to themselves, while others enjoy sharing experiences and sensations with their friends and peers. Privacy is sacrosanct and perfectly fine, but try asking yourself: "Am I not talking about it because I simply don't feel like it, or because I'm afraid of other people's judgment?" Masturbation is a completely physiological practice, and between you and me, we're not hurting anyone! There should be other shames, right?
What a rhetorical question, you might say, but when we talk about masturbation there is never anything rhetorical or obvious.
Nothing. The solutions for perfect autoeroticism can be (and are) numerous. Let's see together.
a few tips, just to refresh your memory and offer some spicy ideas.
Direct stimulation of the genitals with hands/fingers;
Direct stimulation of the genitals with sex toys (but hands can always be added!);
Stimulation of other erogenous zones: experimenting with one's own body is already pleasure;
Read erotic stories to spark your imagination;
Watch some hardcore videos to get some inspiration;
Look in the mirror and give yourself some good, healthy love;
Simply relax and let go: with the help of a good lubricant everything will be easier.
simple.
Anyone who judges you "badly" because you masturbate isn't empathetic enough (or simply not mature enough to address the topic)
In an episode of her podcast, Giulia Salemi admitted that she doesn't masturbate (or at least she rarely does). The reasons behind this "choice" can actually be summed up in one simple word: "I don't see myself doing it, I'm ashamed." She shared her experience, but also revealed how, even today, the topic carries so many worries, anxieties, and taboos. Giulia says she doesn't feel comfortable doing it, that she prefers to leave certain things to her partner, that she can't do it alone because she's "ashamed," and that, despite being 31, she still doesn't fully understand her body. She talks about it with embarrassment, she doesn't feel free to do so, and this says a lot, a lot, about the approach many people have to the topic. The idea that anyone who masturbates is a "little piggy" is rather antiquated, but Giulia knows this; she just doesn't know how to broach the subject, which doesn't particularly feel right to her. Not everyone can talk about it, but if we don't talk about it because someone has judged us badly, it becomes a problem.
Masturbating doesn't make you a "pig" or a "piggy": it's a normal part of life.
We'd be redundant, but we want to get the message across loud and clear. Admitting to practicing autoeroticism won't make you a "bad person" or a sex addict. If you've ever heard negative comments about it in your life, it's only because the person you were talking to wasn't capable of addressing the topic, wasn't mature enough, wasn't inclined enough, or was simply ignorant (in the strictest sense of the word). It's up to you to choose who—and if—to talk about it: the rest is just trivial.
Masturbation is a journey towards self-knowledge
Let yourself be inspired by the moment, let go of all anxiety, and ignite your imagination: it's what takes you elsewhere and makes you fly. Start by discovering yourself slowly, slowly, feeling the sensations of your body, your skin, the intrusive thoughts. Play with yourself, discover the pleasure of your angles: masturbating means growing, getting to know yourself, having fun, taking your time, indulging in a solitary act of love. So do it, don't be afraid, because the world is full of hidden, unshared pleasures, which in the silence of a room learn to look at themselves with different eyes... and definitely sleep better 😉
Let yourself go, experiment, because there's never enough of this kind of feeling! See you soon! <3
