“Are we having anal sex tonight?”
The first time I was asked this question, I stiffened and the only answer that , on impulse , I gave it was to a sound “Absolutely NOT!” 🙅🏼♀️
Well , anal sex isn't something easy to practice or talk about. Above all, it's not such a common and unprejudiced practice that one can make such an explicit and intimidating request.
Anal sex is one of the most common fantasies in bed, but we must not forget that there are cultural or hygiene-related concerns.
As I have exceeded to fear of anal sex?
I won't lie, it's not easy! First of all, you have to be prepared for this act and be willing to trust your partner who will have the " candies " to make the experience as pleasant as it is traumatic.
It's a couple's experience. Both partners must play their part appropriately .
Stimulation
The key word for enjoyable sex anal And stimulation And I'm not just talking about the physical one, but, above all, the mental one. If one of you wants to practice it, but the other doesn't, you have to try to to intrigue her ə and excite them . You have to raise the bar little by little, proceeding in small steps, perhaps proceeding step by step during several relationships .
It might be an idea to have an erotic massage with a oil , to pay attention, to show oneself thoughtful : in short ✨ earning trust ✨.
If stimulation doesn't work, and your partner is adamant, it's best not to insist! You can't force anyone to perform sexual acts , and ... if it is not predispostə , you cannot insist : the refusal must be accepted.
On the other hand, if the stimulation achieves the desired effects, you can move on to the next steps.
Relax
Have you ever heard the expression "my ass is tight"? 🤔 As inelegant as it may sound, this phrase helps us understand something fundamental: the muscles of the anus.
The anus is surrounded by a ring of muscles that tightens when we are scared, stressed, or under pressure, and relaxes when we feel safe and calm .
It goes without saying that , If you are not properly prepared and relaxed, anal sex is impossible to practice.
Know your body
My partner had intrigued me, he managed to stimulate my imagination but, one question echoed in my mind: what if I don't like it ?
In the end , tastes don't matter. disputandum est or rather, tastes are tastes, you don't necessarily have to like it or not like it.
What helped me was trying to get to know my body better. Try gently stimulating the area and notice the sensations you get. Give it a try . Gently massage the sphincter, insert a finger, then maybe another. Try to understand if , the feeling , you may like it or not : experiment .
Are the sensations favorable? Do you feel ready ə ?
If we have finally reached the practical stage it's time to talk about preparations and precautions .
The sex anal It's not a practice that can be easily performed, as we see in porn videos 🫠 . Remember that these are actors and they carry out careful and careful preparation before the act (which, obviously, is not shown to us).
Let's go point by point .
- Intimate hygiene . Remember that the rectum is the final part of the intestine, responsible for defecation, and this information should not be overlooked. To avoid unpleasant surprises during sex, it is good practice to thoroughly clean the final part of the intestine. You can use anal showers , such as the one You can find it here . A tip: if it's your first time using an intimate shower, do it several hours beforehand to avoid excessive irritation. Intimate hygiene is important beforehand, but Especially during anal sex. You should NEVER move from the anal cavity to the vaginal or oral cavity without first thoroughly washing the penis or the sex toy used: this could lead to unpleasant infections and contamination.
- Sex Toys . As mentioned, the rectum is a muscle, therefore it should be trained and made more elastic and predisposed to penetration. For this reason, it is possible to use sex toys such as anal plugs or from the Thay toy beads which will help us in this regard. The use of sex toys is recommended. in the days or minutes preceding the act, so as to have adequate dilation of the anus.
ATTENTION ! 🆘
Whatever sex toy you decide to use, make sure it has a lock that prevents the object from being sucked into the rectum. You could risk serious physical problems and need to go to the hospital : Who wants to end up in the hospital with an object in their anus?
- Lubricant; LUBRICATE, LUBRICATE, LUBRICATE! The anus is rich in nerve endings, but it doesn't lubricate itself, even when very aroused. For anal sex to be pleasurable and painless, the area must be thoroughly lubricated. This will facilitate the insertion of the penis or sex toy. Regarding the choice of lubricants: it is advisable to use those oil-based like The Bodygliss or the Sensilight . These lubricants are compatible with condoms, which will not be damaged by aggressive lubricants.
- Condom . It should not be forgotten that sexually transmitted diseases are just around the corner, especially when experimenting with anal sex. It is good practice Protect yourself by using a condom, which should be carefully replaced if you decide to move on to vaginal or oral penetration.
Described in this way, anal sex may not seem like a walk in the park, on the contrary. You may have thought, “ What a drag! 🤕 . ” I thought so too, I admit , but remember: before and during any sexual act, of any kind, you need to take care of your physical and mental health .
Don't feel it forced and don't force anyone to to do things he doesn't want to do.
Even I, who left with a thousand hesitations and with a “ NO ” More than convinced, after much research and chatting with friends, I'm considering giving it another try. Well, why not?
Sex should be a pleasure, be responsible and enjoy everything... together!
